Lessons learnt from TA Practice

Lessons Learnt from TA Practice

I present here some 25 lessons learnt during the course of my TA Practice

1. Perception is always a distroted view of reality.
2. Meaning alters if not distorts the content of communication. Checking out helps.
3. Noise also does the same.
4. We hold what we believe to be true and nothing but the only truth.
5. Human beings are fallible (prone to commit mistakes). No one is perfect.
6. It is important to learn from our mistakes and those that others commit. 
7. Blaming self or another for a mistake or error in no way helps in remedying its occurrence.
8. No two people view reality the same way. Therefore we are prone to differ in our views of others.
9. Our life position defines our orientation toward our self and to others.
10. Acceptance is a key to effect change.
11. Freedom from expectation and anticipation reduces the compulsion to be angry, dis-satisfied and being engaged in feeling sad and wronged.
12. A precise message is psychologically inconceivable. Noise increases, not reduces the quality of communication. This is cybernetics in Berne's view.
13. Justifying and protecting one's view, opinion or understanding is a sure shot sign of script ridden-ness.
14. Tarrying / lingering / brooding / being occupied in thinking, feeling, emotions, deprives us of our capacity to be mentally at peace.
15. The prevailing moment is all we have in hand to change our view of ourselves, others and reality situations. 
16. Procrustes and Unicorn are methods people use to fit square realities in round holes.
17. Person is always blameless. What one says or expresses is a product of personality formulation. It is largely beyond human awareness.
18. Happiness is the sate of a healthy mind. It is not a feeling.
19. A healthy mind is free of engagements with events, people and our expectations belied. It is good to drop the beautiful girl we picked up on our way and move on.
20. When we are unable to do what is good or beneficial for our mental well being be sure to tell yourself that I am not choosing to be free.
21. Making new choices for good helps us in living a better life.
22. We can always relieve our mind of its obsession to be girppied by thinking, feeling, emotional lock-jams by giving it permission to be free and to let go.
23. The state of a person gripped by an engaged mind is the same as that of an animal struggling to be free of a trap that does not exit in reality.
24. Experimenting with being forgetting and happy like a four to seven year old child is extremely rewarding. 
25. Egotism, grandiosity and self pride is a disease. Humility promotes growth.

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