Daily Dose of TA

Saturday 2 May 2020

00.00 List of Contents

List of Contents

01.01 Definition of TA Link to Blog

01.02 Ego State Explained

01.03 Understanding Ego States

01.04 Berne's Essay titled 'the Ego'

01.05 Map and Reality

01.06 Personality and Script - The two manifestations of the same reality

01.07 Lessons learnt from TA Practice

01.08 Activation and Manifestations of Ego States

01.09 Ego State Anomalies and Script

01.10 Ego State and Script Activation

01.11 Developmental Cycles - Identity Stages

01.12 Cycle of Development

01.13 Cycle of Human Development - 1

01.14 Cycle of Human Development - 2

01.15 Cycle of Human Development - 3

01.16 Cycle of Human Development - 4

01.17 Cycle of Human Development - 5

01.18 Cycle of Human Development - 6

01.19 Cycle of Human Development - 7

01.20 Cycle of Human Development - Putting it together

01.21 Know Your Stage

01.22 Know your Age and Stage

01.23 Ego Staes and Script - Ego State and Script Activation

01.24 Formation of Ego States and Script Activation

99.00 Daily Assertions

------- All about Ego States. Reality and Representation

------- Clinical Meaning of Ego States

------- Psychological Meaning of Ego States

------- Social Meaning of Ego States

Friday 22 November 2019

Psychological, Social and Clinical Meaning of Ego States

Psychological, Social and Clinical Meaning of Ego States

Psychological Meaning: Ego states are discrete entities. Two ego states can occupy consciousness simultaneously. In one by being in the here now in touch with the external reality and in the other reliving the experience of the past; not just recalling it. Complete ego states can be permanently retained. Ego states are phenomenological entities.

Social Meaning: Ego states manifest as corresponding behaviours. They manifest variously in different places, locations and settings, at different times, under different conditions, in different situations, for a variety of reasons and during interactions with others. They are the social aspects of ego states. Shifts in ego states help a person to respond to situations at will if he has executive control. If not, he can at least be aware of the reality situation consciously.

Clinical Meaning: The therapist affording clients to exercise social control through structural analysis constitutes the clinical aspects.

The clinical condition of a patient is determined by balance between three systems. They are:

1. Cathectic capacity of each ego state;

2. The forces acting on each ego state; and

The permeability of boundaries between ego states.

Monday 20 August 2018

Formation of Ego States and Script Activation

I earnestly request you to read the previous blog at Ego States and Script before proceeding to read this blog.

How are ego states formed. Each ego state as a memory cache, is a memory cluster. It has two dimensions I-I, and the other is I - You, It, Life etc. The I-I dimensions are shown here:

The I - I dimension of the
Ego State Cluster

The I-I dimension has five contributing cluster elements with five descriptives and attributions. The permutations and combinations generated by five X five is 120 combinations.

In the other dimension there are upto 10 clusters. Each of these clusters have upto 10 qualifying descriptives and attributes.

The ten clusters are about 1. People 2. Their Persona (Perceived Image) 3. Their Imagined Attributes, Qualities and Powers 4. Interactional Reason 5. Inter-se Roles 6. Places 7. Event or Occurrence 8. Situations and Conditions 9. Impacting Experience 10. Emotional Racket

The permutation and combinations of 10 items with 10 descriptives and attributes generates 3.63 million possibilities. These are shown in the figure:

In combination with the I-I dimension combinations numbering 120 the total number of possibilities number 4.36 billion combinations. The whole picture is shown in figure given here:

In my view we grow to be mature adults at the age of 38-39 years. The brain development completes by 25 years of life. So it may be safely said that we grow up to be mature adults at the age of 26 years. Accepting that we have at least one impacting, lingering, difficult to forget experience a week from our age of 3 years to the age of 25 years we will be recording 1,144 experiences. Say at least 1000 experiences. Each such experience constitutes an ego state having origin in self, meaning Child / Adult ego state. After 12 years of age we start adding meaning to experiences. Meaning distorts the consensual reality. It add many more dimensions to reality and our view of ourselves, others, life and the world at large. Out of these 1000 experiences 600 experiences are distorted experiences.

We face reality as adults. The sources of reality could be people, situations, problems, difficulties, conditions, challenges, conflicts, events, occurrences, experiences, threat situations, surprising situations, un expected situations. These back link to ego states from among the 1000 ego states through roughly 10 stages of growth to the age of 25 years in unique combinations out of the 4.36 billion possibilities.

If some of the linkable anchors are available to ego states, the script activates to run the process as a response to reality depriving the individual of control over perception, estimation, evaluation, and response.

Thus is connected Ego States and Script as the two aspects of the same reality.

The Previous Blogs on Ego States and Script are accessible serially here:

1. Blog 1

2. Blog 2

3. Blog 3

4. Blog 4

5. Blog 5

6. Blog 6

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Ego States and Script

Ego States and Script are but two dimensions of the same reality.

Ego States are the structural components of the mechanism and Script is the manifesting aspect of the mechanism. As an example viruses in the body are comparable to ego states and a bad cold and fever are its manifesting symptoms comparable to script manifestations. So long as the viruses are dormant no manifesting symptoms. A variety of viruses create a corresponding variety of illnesses. This compares to a variety of contamination, exclusion and constancy combinations which show up as manifesting script symptoms. Some are:

1. Confusion, Indecision, Procrastination, Struggle, Dilemmas, and Impasses

2. Ulterior, Crossed and Redefining Transactions.

3. Stroke Economy

4. Driver Behaviours

5. Passive Behaviours and Thinking Disorders

6. Rackety Actions and Activities

7. Roles on Drama Triangle

8. Psychological Stamps Generation through packets of payoffs

9. A variety of angry, hurt, guilty, scared, inadequacy, righteous, triumphant, . . . . . . . slighted, anxiousness rackets as feelings and emotions we work for

10. Game engagements

The bodily component of ego state as a reactivated early life experience (memory cache) and the somatic component of script (generated post reinforcing of failure in effecting autonomy) constitutes the link between ego state as a memory cache and script as its activated manifestation.

I invite you to read my blogs on ego state and script linkage again at:

1. Blog 1

2. Blog 2

3. Blog 3

4. Blog 4

5. Blog 5

6. Formation of Ego States and Linkage to Script

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Sunday 19 August 2018

Cycle of Human Development 9 Know your Stage in 13 and 19 Year Cycle

Cycle of Development 9 Know your Stage in 13 and 19 Year Cycle

Here is a useful tool for those who wish to use it in
FAMILY
CLINICAL
EDUCATIONAL
ORGANISATIONAL
CONSULTANCY AND COACHING
SETTINGS

PLEASE READ THROUGH THE CONTENTS OF THE BLOG BEFORE ACTING ON THE LINK

Click this link

Know your Age and Stage

The Link will open Excel File in a New Tab by Default

"OPEN WITH" appears at the top of the sheet

Select Google Sheets

The excel sheet opens in Google Sheets

Scroll the Sheet to the right
In Column 'Y' Person and dates are given
Notes contents of Column 'Y'

Of Self = is Yourself

Of Partner = Can be Wife or An Associate

Partnership = Marriage

You can change the dates in the cell by double clicking the cell and changing the date in 'YYYY,MM,DD' format.

The contents of the cells to the right will automatically change.

In the right most columns of 13 year and 19 year cycles you will know the

years and months in the cycles. You can read the stages from the table on the left.

You may write to me at taforyouandme@gmail.com or raise the query in the comment section if you have any doubts to clarify.

I am willing to share a pdf of the blogs on Cycles of Human Development. You may send a request email to taforyouandme@gmail.com.

Saturday 18 August 2018

Cycle of Human Development 8 Know Your Stage

Cycles of Human Development

Know your Stage in 13 and 19 Year Cycles

A format is given here for single use
Start Month is Month and Year of Birth or Event
End Month is Current Month and Year

Now four tables are given for multi-purpose / event comparison
In each of them :

Start Month is Month and Year of Birth or Event
End Month is Current Month and Year
As an Example
for me, my birth is (January 1951) so 01/1951,
of my spouse, birth is (September 1955) so 09/1955,
our marriage event is (March 1978) so 03/1978,
our child's birth is (October 1982) so 10/1982
on entering these dates
The results are as shown at the end of this blog.

By Courtesy of the Blogger

So stages will be as under

Self
Thinking of 13 Year Cycle and
Skills of 19 Year Cycle
as is evident from the screen shot here:

Spouse
Skills of 13 Year Cycle and
Identity of 19 Year Cycle
as is evident from the screen shot here:

Marriage

Doing of 13 Year Cycle and

Thinking of 19 Year Cycle

as is evident from the screen shot here:

Our Child
Skills in 13 Year and

Skills in Integration of 19 Year Cycle

as is evident from the screen shot here:

Sunday 12 August 2018

Cycle of Development - Putting it together

Cycle of Human Development - Putting it together

Audio of this Blog

Repetition in cycles is a part of natural phenomena. Some examples are day and night, seasons of the year, and the rise and fall of the tides of the seas.

We grow to mature adulthood by our age of 39 years. Neurological development is complete by our age of 25 years. Successive development cycles help growth, development and maturation in an increasingly sophisticated manner during every subsequent cycle. We can say that we have developed well if we

Enjoy good mental health and psychological well being.
We are spectators in our dreams.
We are at ease when we spend time alone and enjoy time in equal ease in the company of others.
We are able to work alone and with others to achieve our common goals.
We enjoy cordial, rewarding relationships.
We are able to be free of our engaging thinking, feeling, emotional and lock-jams inside of five minutes.
We are free of mind talk.
We are free of psycholgoical time engagements.
We are able to respond to people, situations, problems, difficulties, conditions and challenges of life sanely, safely, effectively, appropriately and to the benefit and advantage of all concerned.

The stages repeat in two cycles. One cycle is of 13 years and and the other is of 19 years. The (13) thirteen year cycle has (5) five stages. They are Being, Doing, Thinking, Identity and Skills stages. These stages are named as explanatory words for the tasks one needs to clear while passing through the stage. The (19) nineteen year cycle has (6) six stages. The first five stages are the same as those for the (13) thirteen year cycle. The sixth stage is called the integration stage. The integration has in turn (5) five stages. They are Being, Doing, Thinking, Identity, Skills stages. The two cycles run their course through our life to 95 years of age per table shown below:

The tasks of various stages could be described in simple terms as follows:

Being Stage - Comfort and ease.
Doing Stage - Engaging in activities to inquisitively know about the world around.
Thinking Stage - Give enough fodder to our mind to understand reality. Gain the ability to assess and evaluate reality; do probability analysis; implement reality testing; generate options; structure a sane, safe, effective and appropriate response, without impacting one's own self worth, value, dignity, respect and exteem nor of the other.
Identity Stage - Be able to deal with reality situations by exercising social control using reality principle. [Reality situations are situations resulting from mutual manipulation. Social control is the ability to resist the manipulation by others and to resist one's urge to manipulate others in destructive or wasteful ways. Reality principle is the ruling principle which helps in predicting the likely outcomes from various courses of action, which helps in patiently waiting, delaying and postponing the urge and impulse to give back or hurt another.] The ability to updating one's identity, value, worth, dignity and esteem. Building one's relationships - neither a victor nor vanquished be.
Skills Stage - Building healthy relationships. Working in cooperation, participation, and gainfully. Learning working, thinking and professional skills.

The two cycles have different cycle runs.

The Thirteen Year Cycle has 0-13-26-39-52-65-78-91 and

The Nineteen Year Cycle has 0-19-38-57-76-95

Their stages are likely to overlap and then the need shows up intensely.

The stage needs of people in associations impose impacting demands on others. The knowledgeable and wise are able to chart them out and work through them, rather than on them, to come out stronger and more capable.

The best of all is to work to regain good mental health and psychological well being by practicing the 17 practices listed by the author in Self Help Transactional Analysis. They are:

Doing six things differently.
Eating one meal a day slowly, attentively, deliberately without engaging in any other activity.
Learning to generate the moment and entering the moment in conscious awareness.
Addressing body and talking to the mind and praising them for our well being and sanity.
Installing a Permissive Parent.
Building an Empowered Adult by Managing Urges, Drives and Impulses.
Building an Empowered Adult by Practicing Neuro Plasticity and Telencyphalisation.
Noticing the activation of our mind.
Giving our mind permission to be free of engagements.
Noticing Rackets (Scripty Thinking, Feeling and Emotional Lock-jams).
Practicing Script Healing.
Gaining the ability to free the mind of thinking, feeling and emotional lockjams.
Becoming Loving and Caring
Gaining freedom from Blaming, Expecting and Anticipating
Becoming Forgiving and Forgetting.
Building Rewarding Relationships. Learning to roll back and move forward when interactions go awry or astray.
Living life happily and joyfully in a childlike way free of anxiety. Acknowledging that happiness is a state of mind and not a feeling.