Daily Dose of TA: Cycle of Development

Cycle of Human Development - Putting it together

Repetition in cycles is a part of natural phenomena. Some examples are day and night, seasons of the year, and the rise and fall of the tides of the seas.

We grow to mature adulthood by our age of 39 years. Neurological development is complete by our age of 25 years. Successive development cycles help growth, development and maturation in an increasingly sophisticated manner during every subsequent cycle. We can say that we have developed well if we

Enjoy good mental health and psychological well being.
We are spectators in our dreams.
We are at ease when we spend time alone and enjoy time in equal ease in the company of others.
We are able to work alone and with others to achieve our common goals.
We enjoy cordial, rewarding relationships.
We are able to be free of our engaging thinking, feeling, emotional and lock-jams inside of five minutes.
We are free of mind talk.
We are free of psycholgoical time engagements.
We are able to respond to people, situations, problems, difficulties, conditions and challenges of life sanely, safely, effectively, appropriately and to the benefit and advantage of all concerned.

The stages repeat in two cycles. One cycle is of 13 years and and the other is of 19 years. The (13) thirteen year cycle has (5) five stages. They are Being, Doing, Thinking, Identity and Skills stages. These stages are named as explanatory words for the tasks one needs to clear while passing through the stage. The (19) nineteen year cycle has (6) six stages. The first five stages are the same as those for the (13) thirteen year cycle. The sixth stage is called the integration stage. The integration has in turn (5) five stages. They are Being, Doing, Thinking, Identity, Skills stages. The two cycles run their course through our life to 95 years of age per table shown below:

The tasks of various stages could be described in simple terms as follows:

Being Stage - Comfort and ease.
Doing Stage - Engaging in activities to inquisitively know about the world around.
Thinking Stage - Give enough fodder to our mind to understand reality. Gain the ability to assess and evaluate reality; do probability analysis; implement reality testing; generate options; structure a sane, safe, effective and appropriate response, without impacting one's own self worth, value, dignity, respect and exteem nor of the other.
Identity Stage - Be able to deal with reality situations by exercising social control using reality principle. [Reality situations are situations resulting from mutual manipulation. Social control is the ability to resist the manipulation by others and to resist one's urge to manipulate others in destructive or wasteful ways. Reality principle is the ruling principle which helps in predicting the likely outcomes from various courses of action, which helps in patiently waiting, delaying and postponing the urge and impulse to give back or hurt another.] The ability to updating one's identity, value, worth, dignity and esteem. Building one's relationships - neither a victor nor vanquished be.
Skills Stage - Building healthy relationships. Working in cooperation, participation, and gainfully. Learning working, thinking and professional skills.

The two cycles have different cycle runs.

The Thirteen Year Cycle has 0-13-26-39-52-65-78-91 and

The Nineteen Year Cycle has 0-19-38-57-76-95

Their stages are likely to overlap and then the need shows up intensely.

The stage needs of people in associations impose impacting demands on others. The knowledgeable and wise are able to chart them out and work through them, rather than on them, to come out stronger and more capable.

The best of all is to work to regain good mental health and psychological well being by practicing the 17 practices listed by the author in Self Help Transactional Analysis. They are:

Doing six things differently.
Eating one meal a day slowly, attentively, deliberately without engaging in any other activity.
Learning to generate the moment and entering the moment in conscious awareness.
Addressing body and talking to the mind and praising them for our well being and sanity.
Installing a Permissive Parent.
Building an Empowered Adult by Managing Urges, Drives and Impulses.
Building an Empowered Adult by Practicing Neuro Plasticity and Telencyphalisation.
Noticing the activation of our mind.
Giving our mind permission to be free of engagements.
Noticing Rackets (Scripty Thinking, Feeling and Emotional Lock-jams).
Practicing Script Healing.
Gaining the ability to free the mind of thinking, feeling and emotional lockjams.
Becoming Loving and Caring
Gaining freedom from Blaming, Expecting and Anticipating
Becoming Forgiving and Forgetting.
Building Rewarding Relationships. Learning to roll back and move forward when interactions go awry or astray.
Living life happily and joyfully in a childlike way free of anxiety. Acknowledging that happiness is a state of mind and not a feeling.