You are invited to read the previous four blogs before proceeding to read this blog - this in case you have not read them already. Their links are (1) Introducing Cycle of Human Development and (2) Cycle of Development - 1 (3) Cycle of Human Development 2 and Cycle of Human Development 3.
Two of three perspectives from which the 'Cycle of Human Development' can be studied have been presented in the previous blogs. In this blog the third perspective is presented. It concerns the types and nature of challenges we face as we move in our life from cycle to cycle.
Life flows on to us all the time. At least a 100 events are happening around us at any given moment. We are however not concerned with all of them. We are concerned with a few of them which affect us. They call upon us to resolve the events sanely, safely, effectively, appropriately and to the extent possible happily. When can we say that this has happened for us. We can say so, when we do not move out of the event with anger related, sadness related, helpless related, wronged related, insult related, anxiety related or for that matter elation / grandiosity related thinking, feeling and emotional lock-jam or as Berne says in a 'transactional racket'. If this happens the experience is a 'racket'. This word 'racket' is a word for 'scripty' or 'script-ridden'. Why does the event generate a racket. The racket is created because of our incapacity to resolve the 'affect' sanely, safely, effectively, appropriately and happily. If we have failed we have used outdated capacities, skills and talents. These cap our capacity to perceive, evaluate, assess the reality impersonally and non-subjectively and with Adult capacities. They not only generate an avoidable outcome they also reinforce our script.
Script comprises our script beliefs and script feelings. These beliefs are of two types: core beliefs and supporting beliefs. Core beliefs are about ourselves, others, type of life we are entitled to live and incapacity to use the universal human endowments. Feelings have a mind component and a bodily component. Berne quoting Eduardo Weiss says that "an ego state is the actually experienced reality of one's mental and bodily ego with the contents of the livedthrough period". Now I move on to explain how the unaccomplished tasks of stages in the previous cycles affect our capacity to deal with people, events, situations, problems, difficulties, conditions, challenges and conflicts (in two realms - internal and external) sanely, safely, effectively and appropriately leaving no lingering footprints of the event.
A table from Cycle of Human Development 2 is given here for ready reference.
Life flows on to us all the time. At least a 100 events are happening around us at any given moment. We are however not concerned with all of them. We are concerned with a few of them which affect us. They call upon us to resolve the events sanely, safely, effectively, appropriately and to the extent possible happily. When can we say that this has happened for us. We can say so, when we do not move out of the event with anger related, sadness related, helpless related, wronged related, insult related, anxiety related or for that matter elation / grandiosity related thinking, feeling and emotional lock-jam or as Berne says in a 'transactional racket'. If this happens the experience is a 'racket'. This word 'racket' is a word for 'scripty' or 'script-ridden'. Why does the event generate a racket. The racket is created because of our incapacity to resolve the 'affect' sanely, safely, effectively, appropriately and happily. If we have failed we have used outdated capacities, skills and talents. These cap our capacity to perceive, evaluate, assess the reality impersonally and non-subjectively and with Adult capacities. They not only generate an avoidable outcome they also reinforce our script.
Script comprises our script beliefs and script feelings. These beliefs are of two types: core beliefs and supporting beliefs. Core beliefs are about ourselves, others, type of life we are entitled to live and incapacity to use the universal human endowments. Feelings have a mind component and a bodily component. Berne quoting Eduardo Weiss says that "an ego state is the actually experienced reality of one's mental and bodily ego with the contents of the livedthrough period". Now I move on to explain how the unaccomplished tasks of stages in the previous cycles affect our capacity to deal with people, events, situations, problems, difficulties, conditions, challenges and conflicts (in two realms - internal and external) sanely, safely, effectively and appropriately leaving no lingering footprints of the event.
A table from Cycle of Human Development 2 is given here for ready reference.
This will help the reader to know his / her own stage as of date.
What are the capacities we need to deal with people, events and other items listed in the previous para. They are capacities to think, assess, estimate, work out probabilities of outcomes and choose a few that may likely work to generate an effective outcome.
TA Theory tells us that not only do we need to possess these capacities, we also need to have the permission to use them when the ocassion demands. In addition we also need to have the five components that go to generate self concept: value, worth, dignity, respect and esteem for and about self, about others and about our life. The unaccomplished tasks of the stages in the first cycle (birth to 19 years of age) affect both permission and also elements of self concept. We get a second opportunity during the second cycle (19 to 38 years of age) to build upon the deficit. The sad part is that we have no knowledge of our responsibility in this regard. We therefore land on the battle-field of life during subsequent cycles without sufficient empowerment to live life successfully as person, with spouse, with members of our family, with our kith and kin, with colleagues in office, in society at large, on the road and in travel and in many other areas the last and the most important being to be able to live life happily and joyfully in a child like way in an accomplished manner. As Fr. Kandathil said 'to be at peace with one self and with others when we are alone and with equal ease and comfort when we are in the company of others and sailing in the sea of life is possible when we are free of script'.
We live our life on a day to day basis in the company of others, at home, on the streets, in office or work environments, and as associates, partners and business stake holders. I will be presenting the conflicting needs and demands generated by prevailing stage that bring people to logger-heads, conflicts, threat situations and the like in the next blog.
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