*I hate to say this. The request is to get you tagged to the series. Else it will be piecemeal without back- linking.*
You are invited to read the previous five blogs before proceeding to read this blog - this in case you have not read them already. Their links are (1) Introducing Cycle of Human Development and (2) Cycle of Development - 1 (3) Cycle of Human Development 2 (4) Cycle of Human Development 3 and (5) Cycle of Human Development 4
The wheels A and B represent two persons who are either of the same age or age difference of 19 years. Their association is presented in the figure below:
I mentioned in the last para of yesterday's blog that we live our life on a day to day basis in the company of others. This we do with people at home, on the streets, in the office and in work environments. We also do this as associates, partners and business stake holders. This blog presents how conflicting needs and demands generated by prevailing stage that bring people to logger-heads, conflicts, threat situations and the like. The picture of a two wheel cart from a race in Viennna would best present this situation.
Both these persons will have the same developmental needs surfacing simultaneously all their lives. It will be challenging if they happen to be husband and wife.
An extreme different case will also be of two persons whose age difference is seven years in complementary 19 year cycles. Boss is 46 years (39+7) and subordinate is 39 years (39+0) or boss is 64 years (57+7) and subordinate is 39 years. Parent is 64 years and son / daughter is 39 years. In an Indian household mother-in-law is 57 years and daughter-in-law is 26 years (19+7). This particular combination is represented in the figure below.
A has entered the Skills Stage. He / She will remain in that stage for seven years. B will clear Being, Doing, Thinking, Identity and a year of Skills stages during the period. Then when B spends the remaining six years in Skills stage, A will have passed through the five stages of Integration namely Being, Doing, Thinking, Identity and Skills stage. Then again A will enter Being while B will be in Skills stage.
Another case is presented from partners, associates and colleagues in business who are three years apart in age. This is also true for married couples whose age difference is 3 to 5 years. Both enter identity one after another twice in 19 years of association. This is presented in the figure below.
Identity stage creates two types of conditions. One is to gain the upper hand in the relationship and the other is to experience being wronged or blaming the other for one's condition.
These combinations and others that will follow in the blogs to come create complex scenarios. Yes they do. As yet they are useful for those who are TA students or TA practitioners and those who are practicing in HR, Coaching, Mentoring, Counselling and Psychotherapy. It is fairly easy to educate clients since these occur again and again in one's life.
I have completed the stages using the 19 year cycle. There are 13 year cycles as well. These I will be completing in the next blog.
I sincerely thank those of you who are regularly reading these blogs. It encourages me to put in some 5 hours of work every day to produce each blog.
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